Who communicates, directs and manages his own effort to be understood, to influence , to assess , to listen and express : problems , needs, interests , views, etc..
All this allows us to relate to communication with others.
As an example of such an act of communication we want to present as is the investment of energy that is often required in the relationship between teachers and students.
This communicates to the teacher that the boy is influenced by mutual percezione.Il process of perception is determined by the assessment that you have the person with whom we interact.
This review outlines a process for allocation of function of communicative intentions in ongoing communication between the actors themselves: request for help, assessment, order, sanction, etc. ...
The student, in connection with his assignment to the teacher, to communicate needs to invest its energy in different ways, including :
1. Understand what the teacher wants;
2. Understanding how should say what the teacher wants;
3. Be very careful not to say or do not express verbally what the teacher does not want to hear, otherwise provide the expected answer;
4. The teacher to understand what he wants.
If we are in a climate of relational type judging / doveristico or in a situation where they have never developed jointly, mutual teacher-student assignments, a large amount of energy will be used by the boy for self-control themselves in relation to the items 1 and 3 presented above .
It 'clear that a process like this grows at the expense of energy can be used instead in favor of effective communication expressed in paragraphs 1 and 4 in improving the function of a' learning and an interaction more satisfying for both actors.
a clue RELATIONAL
When two people meet are trying to establish relationships and to communicate, primarily to get the identifying marks that could be defined with: stimulus, touch, caress, touch, shot to center , recognizing the other, hit him, make him happy, attack, ... however, say that matter exists and that, for better or for worse. These strokes can be regarded as the real unit of measurement of human relationships. In fact, more intense will be the caress, or denigrating, as the report will be viewed as positive or negative, from the person. Thus, according Transactional Analysis, the intensity or the color of our pleasant or unpleasant human relations can be characterized and measured in a certain way, referring to the degree of stroke scambiate.All 'source of all our relationships that exist in urgent need of stroking . It 's an old story! An individual can not survive only on condition that the other dealing with him, think of him, gets feelings about him, this translates into exchanges, verbal and nonverbal and contacts psychic conversation smiles, looks significant, narrow hands, kissing or carezze.Ciascuno needs to be recognized and to recognize the other, to exchange caresses: "I exist, you exist "(see experiments carried out on infants who die for lack of physical contact). OKEITA 'This thirst of strokes is so important that it has been proven that an individual would prefer to receive from the other negative strokes, rather than caresses riceverne.LE SCUOLAIl European cultural conditioning does not help neither the expression nor the acceptance of positive strokes, whether they are conditional, so the other is recognized for what it does, or unconditional, to which the other is recognized for what it is, they can each be positive or negative.
E 'statement you can already see the family : parents give much more emphasis on their child's bad grade in a subject, that his success in another discipline.
same way it may happen between the different roles that interact in school, so a given task well done collaboratively and in optics is considered normal and will not be sanctioned positively By contrast, a failure will be emphasized and commented.
Caress is positive, the crucial if the EU's commitment to the work of one person.
The same is true also in the pedagogical relationship. E 'note to the importance of increasing interest in the learner, to stimulate in him the desire to continue learning. Now, for the same reasons of cultural conditioning has led to the teacher often does not let go "positive stroking" the student, as in the same way, it is awaited to receive a positive stroke.
contrast, a negative sanction is permissible, although it is less effective.
This denial of positive strokes can be explained by the fact that teaching is based on the difference between illusion that the teacher knows that he is right, correcting pupil who does not know who is wrong, which must be amended .
Caress positive, in this context, it has hints of favoritism (the favorite) and lived by the two parties as guilt.
When the teacher is supported in its value as a teacher , ie if it finds that the student is working well, the caress that gives you positive, in the end, giving a caress in itself, but as soon as the difficulty of the task it sets us back in front of his inability to teacher, to his difficulty in identifying the appropriate explanation to the understanding of the student, he touched in his Adapted Child which fails, to caress shall immediately adversely and the student unconditionally.
You could say the same, which is in itself that directs the negative strokes?
It 's always that he determines the reality of the situation, the student who makes the expenditure. And so the pedagogical relationship deteriorates. Learning to "caress" positively the other is not so common.
However, this would strengthen its rationale, would lead to confidence and success.
A pedagogy based on positive strokes is much more effective than a repressive pedagogy based on transactions of dependence and subordination (Critical Parent - Adapted Child), and interpersonal relationship thus created is positive for both the teacher and the student.